A little reminder for the Queens!
You are amazing mama! You are phenomenal, strong, beautiful, intelligent, incomparable, and unique. Don’t you ever forget it! A black woman is always seen as being too aggressive, angry, boisterous, ghetto, and so many other ignorant words that it bothers me. We are so much more than a baby mom, side chicks, hoes, and the 4 letter word known as a female dog. I want us to realize it and hold our heads high, even when we don’t feel that way on some days. You are blessed, loved, and one of a kind. It doesn’t matter if you are from the worse neighborhood to the best. My father was a lot of things but he instilled something special in me. I remember from the time of being a five year old girl he would say, “Martese you are not better than anyone, but just as good as the next.” I had no clue what he was talking about at that time however, it stayed with me through life. We have to remember that we are sisters, no matter what complexion our melanated skin is. We have to stop with the judgement, competition, colorism, and up lift each other. For example, one day I was in a Facebook group and there was a picture with a caption of a lighter complexion woman stating she was being mistreated by the color of her skin. I was perplexed at the comments from other black women who didn’t feel bad for her because she had a lighter skin complexion. Now, I am aware that colorism has been an issue within our sisterhood for a very long time. However, her feelings mattered and I commented and stated that and I was told that “I must be light skin too.” Huh? I didn’t understand it because the way I see it, we are all beautiful melanated women. No matter what shade our skin is, we are all black women. So be kind, understanding, and loving to the next sista. A black woman carries the weight of the world on her shoulders and she needs to know she is special. It is our job to remind her because who else will? The black woman is working hard while managing to raise kids, being a wife, and sister to everyone. We don’t know how we do it but it’s something special that God has placed in us. So the next time you walk past another sista, smile and give her a compliment.