The pretty ugly truth of parenting
Disclaimer: Before I start, I would like to say that I love being a mother. It’s the most rewarding feeling and seeing someone you created is a blessing. Some of us can remember our 40 weeks of pregnancy, from the easiest or the most horrific labor experience. Watching them go from stage to stage, starting from a tiny newborn baby, toddler, school age, to the teenage stage. You have so many memories that you cherish over the years. Those memories consist of laughter, fun, fears, tears, and every other emotion that come with parenting. You instill good morals and teach them to be respectful and appreciative. You have many roles as a parent, you are a caretaker, doctor, counselor, cheerleader, psychic, maid, ATM, lawyer, security guard, prayer warrior, and so many other important roles. We love our kids with all of hearts and will do anything for them and always will. We clean up their scrapes when they fall and pick them up when they are down. The bond between a parent and child is strong and the love is unconditional. On the flip side of all this goodness and love is the ugliness. Lol. This is the side of parenting that you don’t hear or read about. Just picture that day when you get up, meditate, pray, and you are running on time. You are feeling so good that you decide to look good as well. You put on that all white dress that you haven’t worn before and singing and getting everything and everyone ready. But right before you walk out of the door you notice that you have a small brown spot on your clothing. And you ask yourself, “ what the heck is that?!” So you start inspecting and realize your sweet little one did the number 2 on him/herself and wiped it on you. Lol! True story. Or maybe your little one was watching spongebob on youtube and then all of a sudden spongebob is a serial killer. Once you catch it, you make him/her turn it off but by then the damage has been done. Your little one has now seen and soaked it up and goes to school and draw spongebob killing people. Now you look like the crazy parent when the teacher calls you about it. True story. And last but not least what about those teenagers. Inhale and exhale! When I think of this story, I think about the episode on the Cosby show when Theo decides he doesn’t want to go to college and wants to become a garbage man. I found that episode to be hilarious, that was until my child said something similar. Not so funny anymore. What in the hell?! Is what you want to scream at your intelligent young adult. What I realized, there is no manual on how to be the perfect parent and raise the perfect child. Honestly, the perfect parent and the perfect child does not exist. Once we understand that it’s all apart of our process, things will get a little easier. So don’t beat yourself up because you feel like you aren’t doing everything right or feel guilty because you don’t like your child for 2.5 seconds. Lol. What I realized all of this come with parenting, the good, bad, and ugly and at the end of the day I would never trade them for the world. Do you have these moments? Leave a comment below!